Childhood Emotional Neglect resources
May. 19th, 2018 11:50 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
holly_evolvingA University of Albany study found that 30.6 percent of neglected children met diagnostic standards for lifetime post-traumatic stress disorder.
https://consumer.healthday.com/encyclopedia/children-s-health-10/child-development-news-124/child-neglect-648566.html
Talking about a problem will unnecessarily burden other people.
https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/10-things-emotionally-neglected-kids-204000096.html
Many times, parents who are neglectful also use shame and humiliation when the child attempts to get their love and approval. The child may eventually stop trying, and the loneliness that follows may actually be easier to deal with than shame, humiliation, or neglect.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201708/the-long-term-impact-neglectful-parents
Since you believe you can’t trust others, the only logical conclusion that follows from it is that you can only rely on yourself.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-self/2018/04/8-neglect-effects/
In today’s world, we are thankfully highly aware of the devastating effects of childhood trauma and mistreatment upon adult health and happiness. But we have overlooked emotional neglect.
https://psychcentral.com/blog/childhood-emotional-neglect-the-fatal-flaw/
"We might try to...attach ourselves to people who remind us those who hurt us and fix them as a way of vicariously repairing our damaged parents"
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culturally-speaking/201303/overcoming-the-pain-childhood-abuse-and-neglect
“Numbing out” or being cut off from one’s feelings
Feeling like there’s something missing, but not being sure what it is
Feeling hollow inside
Being easily overwhelmed or discouraged
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-recognize-overcome-childhood-emotional-neglect-0218165
These tendencies can make you more susceptible to being taken advantage of, as people who like to take without reciprocation or otherwise exploit others are drawn to people who are generous and have poor boundaries.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-self/2017/07/effects-of-controlling-upbringing/
A tragic number of children have been raised to practice self-sacrifice and self-erasure in order to meet the needs of others, mainly their primary caregivers.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-self/2018/04/learned-self-erasure/
All these beliefs, unmet needs, emotions, and behaviors remain. All this unprocessed rage, hurt, sadness, loneliness, betrayal, and fear is still there. Sometimes they even become worse because of other experiences and relationships that the person encounters along the way. The hurt tends to pile up, the beliefs tend to become stronger, the behaviors tend to become more automatic, more “natural,” and more unconscious.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-self/2017/10/childhood-abuse-and-self-abuse/
https://consumer.healthday.com/encyclopedia/children-s-health-10/child-development-news-124/child-neglect-648566.html
Talking about a problem will unnecessarily burden other people.
https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/10-things-emotionally-neglected-kids-204000096.html
Many times, parents who are neglectful also use shame and humiliation when the child attempts to get their love and approval. The child may eventually stop trying, and the loneliness that follows may actually be easier to deal with than shame, humiliation, or neglect.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201708/the-long-term-impact-neglectful-parents
Since you believe you can’t trust others, the only logical conclusion that follows from it is that you can only rely on yourself.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-self/2018/04/8-neglect-effects/
In today’s world, we are thankfully highly aware of the devastating effects of childhood trauma and mistreatment upon adult health and happiness. But we have overlooked emotional neglect.
https://psychcentral.com/blog/childhood-emotional-neglect-the-fatal-flaw/
"We might try to...attach ourselves to people who remind us those who hurt us and fix them as a way of vicariously repairing our damaged parents"
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culturally-speaking/201303/overcoming-the-pain-childhood-abuse-and-neglect
“Numbing out” or being cut off from one’s feelings
Feeling like there’s something missing, but not being sure what it is
Feeling hollow inside
Being easily overwhelmed or discouraged
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-recognize-overcome-childhood-emotional-neglect-0218165
These tendencies can make you more susceptible to being taken advantage of, as people who like to take without reciprocation or otherwise exploit others are drawn to people who are generous and have poor boundaries.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-self/2017/07/effects-of-controlling-upbringing/
A tragic number of children have been raised to practice self-sacrifice and self-erasure in order to meet the needs of others, mainly their primary caregivers.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-self/2018/04/learned-self-erasure/
All these beliefs, unmet needs, emotions, and behaviors remain. All this unprocessed rage, hurt, sadness, loneliness, betrayal, and fear is still there. Sometimes they even become worse because of other experiences and relationships that the person encounters along the way. The hurt tends to pile up, the beliefs tend to become stronger, the behaviors tend to become more automatic, more “natural,” and more unconscious.
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/psychology-self/2017/10/childhood-abuse-and-self-abuse/