Some answers
Jun. 9th, 2004 03:13 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
holly_evolvingPeople have been making a lot of good points. I'm glad I've been able to get people talking about sex from a philosophical perspective. Most of the time, I don't think people even think of sex as anything more than the act itself. I'm glad my peers can formulate intelligent thoughts on the subject.
As to Mr. Diehl, he doesn't know me. Our interactions have only ever been limited to my saying hello to him and him looking at me as though I were about to kill him. I'm sure he's got some sort of woman issue, but I'm not about to try to figure out what. I'll just ignore him in the future like most other people do, socially. Shows what you get for being nice when you don't have to. And I doubt he wants to fuck me.
Ah, the jealousy issue. No matter how smart and accepting and understanding and wonderful your partners are, it's a risk. I don't have a problem with people BEING jealous. I do have a problem with people ACTING possessive. When it comes up, it's time for a talk. If that doesn't work, it's time for a walk. There's nothing in the world wrong with having a normal friendship.
And friends are the only people I'll sleep with. If I don't know you, and like you, and respect you, I won't be able to trust you. And if I can't trust you, I'm not going to fuck you. So no worries. Condoms + pill + trust = safety. One or the other of the first two (never both) might be skippable--maybe (but probably not)--but never the third. Never, never the third.
Why didn't I mention all this a long time ago? Because I've only accepted myself for who I am in the last few months, when I've been at a point in my life where I can explore this part of myself.
As to Mr. Diehl, he doesn't know me. Our interactions have only ever been limited to my saying hello to him and him looking at me as though I were about to kill him. I'm sure he's got some sort of woman issue, but I'm not about to try to figure out what. I'll just ignore him in the future like most other people do, socially. Shows what you get for being nice when you don't have to. And I doubt he wants to fuck me.
Ah, the jealousy issue. No matter how smart and accepting and understanding and wonderful your partners are, it's a risk. I don't have a problem with people BEING jealous. I do have a problem with people ACTING possessive. When it comes up, it's time for a talk. If that doesn't work, it's time for a walk. There's nothing in the world wrong with having a normal friendship.
And friends are the only people I'll sleep with. If I don't know you, and like you, and respect you, I won't be able to trust you. And if I can't trust you, I'm not going to fuck you. So no worries. Condoms + pill + trust = safety. One or the other of the first two (never both) might be skippable--maybe (but probably not)--but never the third. Never, never the third.
Why didn't I mention all this a long time ago? Because I've only accepted myself for who I am in the last few months, when I've been at a point in my life where I can explore this part of myself.